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thecoffeehouse2012-02-14 08:50 am
brisus) wrote in thecoffeehouse2012-02-14 08:50 amValentine's Day
How do you feel about Valentine's Day? Do you celebrate it?
brisus) wrote in thecoffeehouse2012-02-14 08:50 am
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In my fandom there's always a kerfuffle because someone does an anon valentines comm (which, god bless her, is a TON of work)and, like all things fandom, some people turn it into a popularity contest, getting upset about not getting any or X or Y getting 'too many' or...whatever. Like any public display of affection, there are bound to be those who feel left out and thus...unloved. (TBH, I haven't had the heart to check the post right now: I have a sick kitty I may have to put to sleep today and...yeah, not up for fandom stuff). I love the intent, but it's just like elementary school valentine's exchanges that way.
I hate how it's turned into such a heterosexist holiday in nonfandom culture, and one all about sex. There's a commercial on TV that basically implies if you buy a woman flowers she'll have sex with you (the clincher is the sultry woman saying "remember, if you give, you will receive" or something like that) that just...love and sex are NOT the same, dammit. It denies asexuals any visibility (clearly told this holiday is NOT about them) and it's only for the beautiful people who want to get laid...or spouses being obligated to pretend they are.
MAN I feel cynical.
Me, I'd rather tell my friends I care about them when it's a bit less tainted by necessity.
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